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The Great Wall of Motherhood

Karen Ehman NOVEMBER 30, 2015

The Great Wall of Motherhood

“With your help I can advance against a troop; with my God I can scale a wall.” Psalm 18:29 (NIV)

Maybe I could fake being sick.

Or pretend to twist my ankle.

I just have to think of something that will get me out of this! The voice inside my head uttered words of panic.

It was my freshman year of college, and I stood staring at it — a legend on campus. “It” was made of wood and stood tall in the Midwest countryside. They called it simply: “The Wall.”

The legend was also a tradition, one that every freshman must take part in: Scale the 10-foot beast, assisted only by the 12-member freshman “core group” led by one upperclassman.

On the backside of the wall was a platform, near the top. Once you were over the wall, you could lower yourself and stand solidly on it. From there, you could reach back over and assist classmates who’d yet to experience the thrill of conquering this wooden monster.

Getting the first person over was the hardest, since no one was on the other side to help to pull them over. Usually the tallest, thinnest and most athletic guy went first. Others hoisted him up on their shoulders, and then he diligently tried to pull himself the rest of the way and topple over to the other side.

Then, one after another, more students lifted, hoisted and pushed until they all made it safely to the other side. I did my part to help others over, but I dreaded my turn. I tried to speak positively to myself: You can do this. Focus. Jump high and grab on tight! But those words of encouragement were drowned out by my thoughts of fear and doubt.

I backed up, took some running steps toward the wall, and then leapt upward with all my might, praying someone’s strong arm would catch me.

After a brief moment of panic, I felt the hand of a teammate grab hold of mine and grip tightly. My team then helped me to the top and I gingerly set my feet down on the other side. Sweet relief. We had done it! We had scaled The Wall.

Three years after I was married, I learned I was expecting our first child. I was excited to be carrying a new life. However, I also felt fear as I stared at the massive wall of motherhood I would have to scale — mostly because I thought all the weight was upon my shoulders to be my child’s everything.

Caretaker. Provider. Cook. Teacher. Nurse. Social director. Counselor. Coach. And probably something else I hadn’t even thought of yet. How in the world was I ever going to be able to do all that?

Thankfully, today’s key verse assures us God is near and ready to come to our aid when we are afraid. He can enable us to scale whatever walls of life we face. And now, a quarter-century into my mothering, I see God’s hand and help. His hand has been there to guide me as a mom. And He’s sent help in the form of other mothers who’ve taken my hand and shared both victories and struggles.

I still talk negatively to myself at times, doubting my abilities as a mom and berating myself for the times I blow it. Maybe you do, too. But what if we stopped listening to the voices inside our heads — the ones that fear and fret and worry? What if instead we reached up and out? Up to God who is waiting to tightly grasp our slipping fingers and out to other mothers who have yet to scale the wall?

God is ever faithful. Always nearby. Full of love, compassion and beautiful second chances when we aim high and come up short. God — the perfect parent — will help us parent our children for His glory.

Yes, moms, with God and each other, we can scale the wall of motherhood.

Father, when the voices of fear and doubt threaten to send me into panic, may I hear Your gentle whisper telling me that You are near. Help me reach out to You, and to other moms on this journey, for help in parenting and in life. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Psalm 56:3, “But when I am afraid, I will put my trust in you.” (NLT)

Psalm 56:11, “I trust in God, so why should I be afraid? What can mere mortals do to me?” (NLT)

Karen Ehman’s newest book for moms, Hoodwinked: Ten Myths Moms Believe and Why We All Need to Knock It Off, just released. If you purchase the book through Proverbs 31 Ministries, you will be given a free downloadable journal entitled, “On My Knees & In My Heart: 5 Mini-Spiritual Retreats for Moms.”

For more motherhood encouragement and “5 Ways to Support Other Mothers,” visit Karen’s blog today and enter to win a copy of Hoodwinked.

What are your biggest fears as a mom?

How does the imagery of God helping you to scale a wall help you as you face those fears?

© 2015 by Karen Ehman. All rights reserved.

Proverbs 31 Ministries
630 Team Rd., Suite 100
Matthews, NC 28105

Family Christian: Moving Forward

In this brief, but thorough video, our President and CEO, Chuck Bengochea, discusses what’s new at Family Christian and what is still to come. In it, he touches on new store designs and layouts, our new service promise, and how thankful we are for your support and trust in us.

At Family Christian, we put purpose over profit. Check it out:

Be The Gift God Created YOU To Be

Mmichele Dudley NOVEMBER 27, 2015

Be The Gift God Created YOU To Be

“A spiritual gift is given to each of us so we can help each other” 1 Corinthians 12:7 (NLT)

When I cleaned out my messy closet recently, I found a beautiful gift a friend had given me many months ago.

I remember when she gave me the gift — I was thrilled! It made me feel so special and loved that she purchased it with me in mind.

Yet somehow in the busyness of life, the gift became buried underneath “stuff,” hidden and unused. I can’t imagine how disappointed my friend would be if she knew I hadn’t continued to treasure it.

It made me pause and think about the gifts that the Ultimate Gift Giver has given each of us … and whether or not we’re using them.

1 Corinthians 12:7 says, “A spiritual gift is given to each of us so we can help each other” (NLT).

I envision God, with His infinite creativity, pouring over each of us as He formed us, selecting unique abilities and spiritual gifts to prepare us for the work that He has called us to do (Ephesians 2:10). And not for our own good, but for His good and the good of His people.

It’s our job to steward these gifts. We must prayerfully consider what they are and how we can use them to serve a world in desperate need — this is our purpose, our calling.

At Fashion & Compassion, I work with women who are overcoming exploitation, addiction, war/conflict, domestic abuse and incarceration in the U.S. and around the world. Because of their life circumstances, many of these women have never considered God’s purpose for their life.

For example, Carrie came to us three years ago, emotionally beaten down after 30 years in an abusive marriage. She was essentially locked in her home — with her seven children — and constantly told she was “stupid” and “useless” by her husband.

When Carrie came to Fashion & Compassion, she was frightened and scarred, afraid she couldn’t do anything right. Through love, encouragement and prayer, Carrie now sees that God gifted her with a HUGE heart of compassion for suffering women and an incredible artistic gift.

As our jewelry project manager, Carrie loves and ministers to women with a genuine empathy, compassion and peace that can only come from the healing and restoration she has received from Christ. She patiently teaches and encourages other vulnerable women to make jewelry, and she uses her God-given creative abilities to develop many of our beautiful designs.

Once Carrie understood who she was in Christ and allowed Him to heal her past, she became free to use her gifts to minister to women in a way that only she can.

So as you shop for special gifts today, remember our key verse and use those gifts to serve one another.

Just imagine what the world would be like if we began to steward the gifts God has given us to serve each other and bring healing to the broken.

And unlike the gift my friend gave me long ago, let’s not keep our unique gifts from God hidden under a mountain of stuff in the closet of our lives. Let’s use our gifts for His glory NOW!

Dear God, Thank You for the sacrificial gift of Your Son — the BEST gift I can ever receive. Keep me mindful of Jesus during these busy days and don’t let the busyness of life keep me from using the gifts You have given me to serve a world in need. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Psalm 139:13-14, “For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” (ESV)

Ephesians 2:10, “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” (ESV)

Remind someone they are loved by God and by you by giving them a “Loved” charm dangle bangle bracelet made by a Fashion & Compassion artisan. You can purchase the bracelet and other jewelry made by women overcoming poverty & injustice here.

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Unsure what your spiritual gifts are? Find out by taking this spiritual gift assessment.

Have you seen God use your gifts and abilities to transform the life of another person? Please share your stories in the comment section.

How could you serve your church or a ministry in your community using the gifts that God has given you? Ask for God’s leading as you prayerfully consider next steps.

© 2015 by Michele Dudley. All rights reserved.

Proverbs 31 Ministries
630 Team Rd., Suite 100
Matthews, NC 28105

Don’t Waste the Tantrum

Carrie Zimmer NOVEMBER 26, 2015

Don’t Waste the Tantrum

“Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” Romans 5:3-5 (ESV)

I woke up in a bed of wetness. My 3-year-old daughter had climbed into our bed in the early morning hours and had an accident. Had this been the only trial that day, I might’ve been unaffected. However, this was followed by a tantrum at breakfast that left a bowlful of cereal and milk all over the kitchen floor.

I’d like to think that I could’ve even held back the tears at this point, but the entire day unraveled. My girl screamed at the top of her little toddler lungs over clothing selections, then threw up in her newly-washed car seat. That, coupled with a crying, hungry baby, left me no option but to call and cancel on a friend whom I was suppose to meet that morning.

Instead of meeting my friend, I sat on the princess-dress covered floor of my toddler’s room and cried.

That was one of the most challenging weeks I have faced as a mom. But it was also that week that I found myself being incredibly grateful as Jesus gently steered my focus back to Himself.

That day, everything in my flesh wanted to run away and come back only when my daughter had outgrown this trying phase.

But as I sat there crying on her bedroom floor, with her crying next to me, through the power of the Holy Spirit alone, I whispered, “Thank you, God.”

It felt so unnatural to thank God as my daughter laid an arm’s length away screaming and flailing, but in that moment God reminded me that when I feel utterly out of control and frustrated to my core, He is there, and He is good.

In our key verse today, Paul gently reminds us that our suffering, whatever that looks like in our lives, is not just for the sake of suffering. There is purpose in it and that purpose is to produce endurance, character and hope!

Too often, I think of relying on God’s strength as though it needs to be saved for the big things, like death or crisis moments. But how foolish I am to think I could face any trial without His strength.

I have found that it is easy to hold my breath and wait for trials to pass or wait for the storm to settle. But yet in the quietness of my soul, God gently reminds me not to waste this moment, this tantrum, because in it, God is teaching me something great. That no matter what comes my way, He is good. He is sovereign. He is all I need. And that is a beautiful hope!

Dear God, would You show me in the depths of my hearts that I need You every hour? As I navigate the ups and downs of life, give me the assurance that You will use, everything for Your divine purpose. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” (ESV)

Hebrews 4:14-16, “Since then we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” (ESV)

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What is an area of your life that you try to handle on your own strength?

Confess your desire to control things and handle them on your own and pray for strength to surrender that thing to Jesus.

© 2015 by Carrie Zimmer. All rights reserved.

Proverbs 31 Ministries
630 Team Rd., Suite 100
Matthews, NC 28105

Being Thank-full Goes Beyond Counting Your Blessings

Tracie Miles NOVEMBER 25, 2015

Being Thank-full Goes Beyond Counting Your Blessings

“One of them, when he saw he was healed, came back, praising God in a loud voice. He threw himself at Jesus’ feet and thanked him — and he was a Samaritan.” Luke 17:15-16 (NIV)

So, ’tis the season to be thankful. Everywhere you look, people are talking about being thankful, focusing on expressing thankfulness and even posting the reasons they’re thankful on social media every day.

But you know what? Being “thankful” does not automatically mean we are being thank-full. Being thankful for the good things is really just being glad we are benefiting from those good things and appreciating God’s blessings upon us. But being truly thank-full requires looking beyond our blessings, to the One who blesses. It’s about being full of gratitude for Christ, not just being full of thanks for what He has given us or done.

If someone were to ask me today to spontaneously list the things I am thankful for, my list would probably be very similar to yours — food, a home, clothes, family, jobs, transportation, friends, health, etc. Each of these things are huge blessings, and tremendous reasons to be thankful, all of which I am very grateful for.

But I began to wonder: Is appreciating those blessings which I can physically touch or see really creating a solid attitude of thank-full-ness? Do I still feel thank-full when life is hard?

What about when we feel we don’t have anything to be thankful for from this past year? What about those of us who are out of work, lost homes, had children stray from the Lord, had marriages split up or received a challenging health diagnoses? What about those grieving the loss of someone they loved or struggling with infertility?

Maybe you can relate to one or more of those situations or are experiencing a different hardship in life, and if so, maybe the thought crossed your mind that possibly this is just not the year to feel thankful. But Thanksgiving isn’t just about counting our blessings.

Thanksgiving Day originally started with the Pilgrims, a group of believers who in the midst of extreme hardship, loss of loved ones and minimal food and supplies, still believed they were extremely blessed. They chose to celebrate and thank God for His blessings even though life was difficult and their blessings were few.

As I thought about this topic and the Pilgrims’ unwavering thankfulness, I recalled the story found in Luke. In Luke 17:11-19, we read a story about a man whose heart was focused on Jesus, not just focused on his blessings. It’s the story of when Jesus had compassion, mercy and grace for ten lepers on the roadside, and healed each one of them … but only one returned to say thank you. Only one healed leper recognized that not only was his body healed, but also his soul. Only one man was so overwhelmed and full of thankfulness, that he took the time to say thanks.

The leper surely still had lots of problems in his life to face, but due to being thank-full, he heard Jesus give him the greatest blessing of all, when He said in Luke 17:19, “Rise and go; your faith has made you well.”

As I read this story, I had to ask myself some hard questions: Am I thankful for what I do have and what Jesus has done in my life, or feeling unthankful or negative about what I don’t have and what I feel Jesus hasn’t done for me yet? I couldn’t help but wonder if my faith was helping me have an attitude of true gratitude in my heart, like the Pilgrims and the healed leper, even though everything in life wasn’t as I wanted it.

There will always be things we may not feel thankful for, but we can still be thank-full by putting a different focus on what thankfulness really is. Let’s open the door for our hearts to be transformed as we focus not on just thanking God for our blessings, but thanking Him for being the One who blesses.

Lord, forgive me for focusing more on the negatives in my life than the positives. Thank You for Your blessing of love, grace, mercy and eternal life. Fill my heart with Your spirit this Thanksgiving so I can be thank-full. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Psalm 107:1, “Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever.” (NIV)

Visit Tracie Miles’ blog today for more encouragement and to enter to win one of two beautiful Gratitude Journals!

Check out Tracie’s books, Stressed-Less Living and Your Life Still Counts, to help you begin focusing on God’s goodness and grace in your life in the coming year.

Have you been focusing more on the negatives of life, instead of the positives?

If you become more thank-full and take your gratitude for Christ beyond just counting your blessings, how might that new perspective change your heart, mind and life?

© 2015 by Tracie Miles. All rights reserved.

Proverbs 31 Ministries
630 Team Rd., Suite 100
Matthews, NC 28105

Happy Thanksgiving from Family Christian: What We Are Most Thankful For

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever. – 1 Chronicles 16:34 NIV

With Thanksgiving just two days away, we’d like to share with you some of the many things we are thankful for here at Family Christian. In response to a survey, almost 20 team members from many different roles within the organization gave the top three things they were thankful for this year. With all the answers provided, this list could go on forever, but here are just a few.

Without a doubt, we are most thankful for God and His grace.

Family Christian would not exist without the grace of God. All the work that we do would be impossible without Him.

And while Family Christian would not exist without God, we would not function without you. We are so thankful for your prayers and support, and all of your purchases that help us fulfill our mission of bringing the gospel to the ends of the earth.

Thankful to Serve

We are so thankful for the lives we touch.

We are also thankful to work for a company which whose mission is to put purpose over profits, striving to make a difference in the lives of so many people all over the world.

From widows and orphans to all of you, our main goal is to share the love of Christ every single day.

We are blessed to be able to provide you with products that will help you find, grow, share and celebrate your faith, and at the same time give hope to widows and orphans all over the world.

Finally, we are thankful for all of our family and friends. They enrich our lives so much, by sticking with us through our ups and downs, promoting our spiritual growth, and helping mold us into the people we are today.

There are so many other things we are thankful for: health, the seasons and second chances to a name few, but ultimately everything comes from God. To Him all thanksgiving and praise is due.

As you celebrate this year, go beyond just thinking about food and football, and remember to give thanks to the Lord for every gift He has given you, including the most important gift of all: the redemptive sacrifice of Jesus Christ.

Happy Thanksgiving!

A Hard Lesson I Learned on “Accident”

danya jordan NOVEMBER 24, 2015

A Hard Lesson I Learned on “Accident”

“Freely you have received; freely give.” Matthew 10:8b (NIV)

The hot water rinsed the shampoo down my head and neck as my mom tenderly washed my blood-soaked hair. I had just returned home from the trauma center after being involved in a serious six-car accident just hours before — grateful to be miraculously alive.

It was difficult to comprehend walking away that evening from the emergency room with no broken bones, no visible cuts. MRI and CAT scans showed no brain injury from my scalp gash and being knocked unconscious from the side airbag. Eleven staples in the back of my head and body bruises were my only (yet barely visible) battle wounds.

The inner wounds lingered, though, as I processed the lessons God was trying to teach me.

Loved ones and friends brought daily meals, sent cards, flowers, texts, emails and left sweet phone messages for me. Mom chauffeured me around for a week to doctor’s appointments and errands before I was issued a rental car.

As grateful as I was, I struggled to accept their help. It has always been easier for me to give, to serve, to try to be in control of my situation, my surroundings. This car accident changed my perspective and humbled my heart.

God wanted me to learn this truth about myself: I’m not good at receiving.

As result of that accident, I learned a hard lesson. I learned to ask for help when I need it. And when I did, God taught me the blessing of receiving.

God’s Kingdom is built on the principle of giving and receiving … receiving and giving. At times we need to do both.

Asking for help is often hard, whatever the reason. At Proverbs 31 Ministries, we love to give. We love serving you, and offering God’s Word to a hungry world.

And at times, we struggle to ask for help. But we know that would deny others the blessing of giving. For some, giving is a spiritual gift, as Romans 12:8 shows us (see below).

Our key verse in Matthew 10:8b teaches us that our hands should be open when it comes to giving and receiving help. Jesus was giving specific instructions to His disciples in that passage. The full verse eight says: “Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse those who have leprosy, drive out demons. Freely you have received; freely give.”

God wired our hearts to give and receive. He gave the Ultimate Gift. He gave sacrificially. He gave from His heart, just as He wants us to give sacrificially and have the grace and humility to receive. How many times have I rejected God’s offer of help to me, thinking I could do life on my own? It was pride.

This incident taught me the hard lesson that I needed to learn to ask for help. I thank God for my car accident and that He spared my life for His purpose. I pray God continues to show me how to give sacrificially and receive with grace and humility.

Lord Jesus, thank You for saving my life. You are my Jehovah Jirah. Forgive me for my pride in struggling to receive. Help me to continue to lavishly give to You, serve others and receive Your blessings. I pray for Your continued favor on the friend reading this devotional and on Proverbs 31 Ministries. Thank You for providing more than enough, Lord. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Romans 12:6 & 8, “We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; … if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.” (NIV)

2 Corinthians 9:10-11, “Now he who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will also supply and increase your store of seed and will enlarge the harvest of your righteousness. You will be enriched in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God.” (NIV)

1 John 3:1a, “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!” (NIV)

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With what “accident” has God taught you a difficult lesson?

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© 2015 by Danya Jordan. All rights reserved.

Proverbs 31 Ministries
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Learning to Love More People, More

Lisa Harper NOVEMBER 23, 2015

Learning to Love More People, More

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32 (NIV)

You’ve probably heard the old adage, “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” Well, I beg to differ. I’ve learned at least one new thing. Every. Single. Day. Of the last year and a half.

Most of the lessons have come courtesy of a joyful 6-year-old Haitian with a wee rambunctious streak named Missy, who officially became my daughter in April 2014 after a tumultuous two-year adoption process.

My little girl has a brave warrior spirit and a predisposition to wiggle gleefully in the grocery store and greet bemused shoppers with the invitation, “Hello ma’am, do chu wanna dance wid my mama and me?” My little girl also has HIV.

She was unwittingly infected by her biological mom who, like far too many people living in impoverished conditions in third world countries, never got tested and died of AIDS without ever realizing she had it.

As a result of Missy’s disease, one of the first new lessons I learned was about loving more people, more. My tutoring session took place in the private non-chain pharmacy we visit monthly that specializes in meds for people with HIV and AIDS. They don’t sell candy, cards, breakfast cereal, toothpaste or Chia pets, just pricey medicine for pretty sick folks. It’s tucked away on the fifth floor of an old building that used to house a low-budget shopping mall.

Of course, at first some of the other customers glanced at us with curiosity. This was probably because — with Missy dressed in a plaid school uniform and a bow bigger than her head, and me wrapped in my whole harried, disheveled look — they assumed we were lost.

Some even hurdle over benign curiosity and jump straight to barely disguised contempt. This aptly describes the man with an angry expression who rode up the elevator with us one visit. He literally averted his gaze and exhaled in protest when Missy blurted out happily, “Hello Sur! How awe you?”

I put my hand protectively on her shoulder and tried to scoot her a few inches away, but this was one time her ardor was not easily redirected. She tugged on his sleeve and persisted with more animation, “I’m Missy Haar-Purr. I’m FIVE! And this is my MAMA Haar-Purr!”

He threw me a look of frustration and exhaled louder. It was all I could do not to grin at his surprised expression when we walked into the pharmacy behind him and the darling employees swarmed Missy like a bevy of favorite aunts.

He seemed startled when they asked her to sing and she responded by belting out the praise chorus of “Your Great Name” followed by an enthusiastic, hip-swiveling encore of “Shake Your Booty.” (Missy’s musical repertoire is surprisingly vast.)

A few minutes later, after she’d proclaimed, “I lub ya’ll!” she handed a big sucker to each one of the staff. Then Missy turned to the man, held up her last remaining lollipop, and asked sweetly, “Wood chu like a sucker, Sur?”

His expression softened as he leaned down and replied gently, “Well, yes, honey. I believe I would.” My daughter hugged him before bellowing a rather bossy “Goodbye Sur, it was nice to meed you!” At which point he reached over her head and shook my hand.

When our eyes met, we both smiled. I couldn’t speak, because I was too close to tears. But I don’t think we needed any more words. Enough had already been said.

What Thanksgiving does annually for my waistline, Missy has done for my heart. She’s increased my capacity to “be kind and compassionate to one another,” which is exactly the kind of effect the indwelling power of the Holy Spirit has on Christ-followers.

Our Heavenly Father’s forgiveness and acceptance causes our hearts to expand far beyond our previous boundaries. As maturing Christians, we’ll scoot past simply being consumers of grace and become carriers of grace, becoming brave enough to embrace people we never noticed before as we seek to act like Christ.

Lord, remind us today that Your grace is available to everyone and that we are all in need of it. Help us live in a way that reflects Your nature to others. We know we can do it only through the empowering of Your Holy Spirit. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

John 13:34, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (NIV)

1 Corinthians 13:4, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” (NIV)

In her new book, Believing Jesus, Bible teacher and author Lisa Harper retraces the steps of the apostles in the book of Acts, while throwing in a few of her own crazy adventures along the way.

Lisa has also prepared a Believing Jesus DVD Study and accompanying Study Guide. In them, she addresses what it means to believe Jesus. Not just believe in Jesus, but actually believewhat He said — and shape our lives around that truth.

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Who is one person you know — perhaps someone different from yourself — to whom you could show Jesus’ grace and compassion today? How will you do that?

What would it look like for you to “love more people, more“? In what ways would that change your mindset and the way you view others?

© 2015 by Lisa Harper. All rights reserved.

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A Heart for Giving

In Acts 20:35 (NIV), Paul tells us that Jesus says, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.”

However, it is a struggle for many people today to give without feeling obligated or without expectation of something in return. Whether it is the giving of gifts, of money, or of time, many of us find it difficult to make a sacrifice without getting some type of repayment.

When others need help, is your initial reaction to think, “What’s in it for me?” If so, I encourage you to meditate on the verses below and evaluate whether or not you have a heart for giving.

If this is an area of difficulty in your life, ask God to work in your heart and to teach you to give cheerfully and without expectation.

John 3:16

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

We have been given the greatest gift of all – the atoning sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This gift was given freely to all who accept it, without receiving anything in return. This is the heart for giving that we should model in our lives today.

Deuteronomy 15:10

“Give generously to them and do so without a grudging heart; then because of this the Lord your God will bless you in all your work and in everything you put your hand to.”

Proverbs 11:25

“A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.”

Proverbs 18:16

“A gift opens the way and ushers the giver into the presence of the great.”

Luke 6:30

“Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back.”

1 Corinthians 13:3

“If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.”

2 Corinthians 9:6-8

“Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.”

Hebrews 13:16

“And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.”

1 John 3:17

“If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person?”

God asks us to give not out of obligation or with any reservation, but rather to give because He first gave to us. It is not what we give, or how much we give, but whether or not we have a heart for it.

With the holiday season upon us, now is the perfect time to practice your giving. To you that could mean giving a surprise present to someone and not expecting anything in return, or it could mean giving up a Saturday afternoon and volunteering somewhere.

Just remember, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.”


This post was written by Family Christian’s own Alex Rogers. He loves coffee, movies, and spending time with friends and family.

Overcoming a Sizable Fear

Liz Curtis Higgs NOVEMBER 20, 2015

Overcoming a Sizable Fear

“Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.” 1 John 4:18 (NLT)

My flight was in the boarding process as I settled into my aisle seat, 7-B, and began to pray for whomever might sit in 7-A.

Sadly, I wasn’t praying for that person’s soul — I was praying for his or her size. I dearly hoped the stranger would be petite, someone who wouldn’t feel miserable squished next to an abundantly blessed woman on a tiny commuter plane.

Please, Lord?

I watched the passengers file past, apprehension mounting. My opening patter was well rehearsed: “They keep making these planes smaller, don’t they?” or “Sure wish my hips could fit in the overhead compartment.” Anything to put him or her at ease.

Moments later a slender, smiling boy appeared beside me. “I’m 7-A.”

I beamed at him. “Wonderful!” He had blond hair, perfectly round glasses and the pink cheeks of late childhood. I pegged him at 9 or 10, maybe even a mature age 8.

He climbed into his seat, barely taking up half of it, and announced, “I like this plane. It’s my size.” He leaned toward me and added in a stage whisper, “It makes me feel bigger.”

Bless his heart.

I asked his name, wondering what it must be like to travel alone at such a young age, then gently patted his arm. “I’m here if you need anything.”

The child talked non-stop for the first 30 minutes before folding over and drifting off to sleep. Watching him, I resisted the maternal urge to smooth back his hair. So young.

When the engines grew louder, signaling our descent, my neighbor woke up with a yawn, glanced at his watch and grinned. “Whaddaya know? My birthday is next week.”

Picturing a big party in the works, I asked, “Which one will this be?”


My smile froze in place. It couldn’t be. Not this small boy, no taller than a third-grader.

I could only imagine the snide comments his peers threw at him. Or the many clueless strangers like me, who treated him as if he were a half-grown child instead of a full-fledged teenager.

“Happy birthday,” I murmured, my heart breaking for him. What must it be like to be smaller than people expect?

It’s like being larger than people expect.

I looked down and fumbled with my seat belt, suddenly feeling exposed. Just like this self-conscious teen who kept his defense tactics at the ready — “It’s my size” — I had my verbal arsenal loaded as well, deflecting imagined criticism by beating people to the punch — “They keep making these planes smaller, don’t they?”

No, Liz. They don’t.

The time had come to see my self-effacing banter for what it was: fear of embarrassment, fear of rejection.

What if you don’t like me? What if you say something unkind?

Today’s key verse, 1 John 4:18, helped change my thinking. God promises that His “perfect love expels all fear.” The truth is: People may not love us. But God does. If we embrace His love, we won’t fear the approval of people and can instead focus on loving them.

“If we are afraid,” 1 John 4:18 continues, “it is for fear of punishment.” Rude stares, rolled eyes, hurtful comments. Such things might come from people, but never from the Lord. As our verse concludes, such fear “shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.”

I not only want to experience God’s perfect love; I also want to give it away. Now whenever I fly alone, I offer a different prayer. To be more other-conscious and less self-conscious. And to seek God’s approval alone.

Heavenly Father, the size of our hearts is infinitely more important to You than the size of our bodies. Help us cast aside our fears and replace them with Your truth. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Galatians 1:10, “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” (NIV)

Proverbs 29:25, “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe.” (NIV)

Want more encouragement about embracing the woman God created you to be? Liz Curtis Higgs’ new book, It’s Good to Be Queen, explores the remarkable life of the Queen of Sheba, an ancient role model for modern women.

Stop by Liz’s blog where her post, “What Will People Think?” expands on Proverbs 29:25, offering further encouragement for letting go of fear.

Your fears may be entirely different than mine, yet they still reflect a need to fully embrace God’s love.

Day in and day out, what are you most afraid of? How might a deeper awareness of His love help you overcome that fear?

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